Dear Miss Manners: I would love your thoughts on how to respond firmly to these statements.
1. I have three children well behaved, but when we go anywhere, people comment: “You have your hands full.” It is said with a negative tone. I love my children and I don’t want them to listen to lack of lack of lack.
2. My husband is a bigger person and, often, random strangers will call him “great guy” or “boss.” I think it is rude to call attention to its size.
Soft reader: In boats: “Oh, thanks.”
Miss Manners promises that no one will dare to explain that his comment was not intended for a compliment.
Dear lady manners: I have leg friends with some for 12 years. We used to do everything together, and we were cream companions for a while.
Then she with a boy rich on the coast. I have with him a handful of times, and it always seems pleasant. Now they are married and live in a yacht.
My husband and I spent most of our summer vacations in the same coastal city where they live. They have invited many people to come and spend on weekends with them in the boat; However, we have never invited Bone. Not even when we are in the city for a week. Not as much as a glass of wine.
It’s not about boat, it’s just that I feel something is wrong. Maybe her husband didn’t like it, but she would never tell me that.
They invite us to their children’s weddings (and there are many legs), and we always present ourselves with a gift in our hand. They only invite us to events in which we feel the union to bring gifts; My friend never wants to meet and catch up with each other.
Is it time to surrender and accept that we are no longer friends?
Soft reader: But they are still friends, or they would not be invited to family occasions. Save that common accusation on the acceleration of gifts for invitations of people who barely know.
The fact is that many friends change intensity over the years. It could be that the husband feels less compatible with you and your husband. It could be that adjustment that I make an effort to meet him, they simply have not thought about adding it to their joint circle. It could be that, since you already stay in their city, they do not think about having you like Soussepests on the yacht. And it could be any number or other reasons.
Miss Manners suspect that you think it has to do with her money. Because? And in that case, why would you think they are eager to expel a wedding gift?
It is not time to surrender; It is time to realize that you are not as close as before, and it could be again, someday.
Dear lady manners: Occasionally an email to companies for matters for matters of the product. What is the right greeting to use when the recipient and its gender are unknown? “Who can group” seems cold.
Soft reader: How warm are your feelings for these businesses and their unknown representatives? Miss Manners promises that no one will feel love if he uses that commercial greeting.
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